Marriage Counseling 

                        "You Just Can’t Sit Back and wait for a Happy Marriage,

                                               You have to create One"

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Problems in marriage are increasing, leading to rise in divorce rates in our society. This issue is severely disturbing our social balance and the whole concept of the “Orbit of Life”.

The orbit of life is your sphere of influence. Before marriage, we are under self-orbit and enjoy doing things our way. But, post-marriage, we share our orbit with someone else. 

 Marriage is like a fascinating flight journey, we enjoy flying but we are afraid of the turbulence. We fear because we are unable to handle the turbulence. However, not everybody is afraid of the same intensity. Do you wonder why?

Research on human psychology and behaviour says that the scale is different for different people. Some people can easily control the fear and move one in their lives, while some others just creep around the issue and make their lives more miserable. Marriage and marital conflicts are no different.

Before we learn to find out more, let us understand the various types of marriage. Broadly, marriages are of two types:

1. Arrange Marriage

Arrange marriage is the most common type. Here, we hardly get sufficient time to know or understand a person and judge only based on his or her talking, dressing sense and way of dealing things. And, with that little knowledge, we get into a long-term relationship, which can turn out to be good or worse.

1. Love Marriage

In love marriage, we spend a long time to know and understand the person. But again, only to an extent. The main hindrances here are:

1. People show artificial faces to each other.

2. Situation and conditions during a love relationship can change after marriage.

3. The issue of sharing orbit of life is still there.

So, be it an arrange or love, most of the marriages fail because we start focusing on the mistakes of each other. Doing so we create so much misunderstanding that we fail to find our inner beauty.

The main reasons that create differences are:

1. Lack of Transparency

We give the least importance to transparency and hide things from each other that impacts our relationship badly.

1. Lack of Faith

Losing faith in our partner leads to other issues like a misunderstanding on our sex relation, past and current life.

1. Mistake

If we understand that being human we make mistakes. But instead of understanding each other’s fault and improving the situation, we go deeper blaming each other. Fact is this “We are humans, so we make mistakes. We make mistake, so are we humans”

Therefore, the role of a marriage counsellor or psychotherapist becomes very crucial in mending the damage. When we view things from another’s perspective, we realise what is important – divorce or a happy married life. Because Divorce is only by-product of misunderstanding.