Month: February 2019

 

In the age of social networking we are not less on friends, we have hundreds or thousands   of friends. Lets understand the value or importance of friendship in the life .

Friends are supposed to be good for Us. In recent years, scientific research has suggested that people who have strong friendships experience less stress, they recover more quickly from heart attacks and they are likely to live longer than the friendless. One interesting study proved people who have strong friends are even less susceptible to the common cold.

Let us understand the Do’s &  Don’t of friendship :

How can a friend be bad? Most obviously, by drawing a person into criminal or otherwise ill-advised pursuit.

Betrayal also makes for a bad friendship. When friends split up, it is often in cases where one has shared personal information or secrets that the other one wanted to be kept confidential.

Another form of betrayal,  is when a friend suddenly turns cold, without ever explaining why. It’s more than just pulling away, The silent treatment is actually malicious.

A third type of bad friendship involves someone who insults the other person,

Emotional abuse may be less noticeable than verbal abuse, but it is more insidious. Some people constantly set up their friends, she explained. They’ll have a party, not invite the friend, but make sure he or she finds out.

Risk takers, betrayers and abusers are the most extreme kinds of bad friends, but they are not the only ones. Occupying the second tier of badness are the liar, the person who is overly dependent, the friend who never listens, the person who meddles too much in a friend’s life, the competitor and the loner, who prefers not to spend time with friends.

Most common is the promise breaker. This includes everyone from the person who says let’s have a cup of coffee but something always comes up at the last minute to someone who promises to be there for you when you need them, but then isn’t.

Sometimes the mature thing is to lighten up and let something go, she added. It’s also an act of maturity sometimes to accept another person’s limitations.

But if the friendship has deteriorated to the point where one friend truly dislikes the other one or finds that the friendship is causing undue stress, the healthy response is to pull away, to stop sharing the personal or intimate details of life, and start being too busy to get together, ever.

It takes two people to start and maintain a friendship, but only one to end it.

It is wise to pay attention to your friendships and have them in order while you’re healthy and your life and work are going well. Because when a crisis hits, when someone you love dies, or you lose your job , when the universe gives you a crash course in vulnerability, you will discover how crucial and life-preserving good friendship is.

February is here so the exams …This is a the time of year when both students & parents feel the heat of exams-Exams time is most stressful time for the students . In fact for parents also exam of the child is a taxing time. With change in pattern of question , syllabus & difficulty level can made the student despair at times . However, handling the situation calmly will help to ease the stress levels of your child as well as your home.

Read on to understand how parents can ease the child   to deal with exam s pressure:

1. Keep them positive: Child become negative in the days preceding the exams. It parents responsibility to boost the morale of your child & keep the atmosphere positive as much as possible. No Negative statements –“remember your previous grades”, ”you will fail if not work hard”, ”You have to score — % of marks . However, do not make the child overconfident.
2. Ba a support: Whenever your child face any difficulty in learning any concept help them to understand that concept .if you are not owing due to difficulty level then please guide them about how they can solve the doubts. Talk to teacher, search on internet etc.
3. Check the diet: Some children lose their appetite during exams. Parents needs to ensure that their wards are eating a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables also drinking plenty of water keep them well hydrated.
4. Stress management: Soft music & light exercise help to manage the stress. You can encourage your child to go out in the open for a stroll.
5. Keep Personal & family problems at bay: Do not discuss family problems in your child’s hearing now and if possible, never. Unknowingly you may be adding to his or her stress levels. In fact agree not to disagree with your spouse or other family members during this time as even a normal argument can be distracting.

 

We all have come across the situation in life when our loved ones –family member, friends, peers, colleague needs a kind support because they are going through a tough phase in life.

If you want to be supportive (and not make matters worse), what are the right words to say to someone who has experienced a relationship break-up, for instance, or lost their job?, problems in married  life?

Should you express sympathy, downplay the situation, say you know how they feel, or something else entirely? This thought will always confuse us and sometimes bring a situation in life, we are unable to give the right advise or help them.

We always look for a “magic statements that, if spoken, would provide lasting comfort to the recipient”. But do we really have a magical words or statements which actually relief our loved ones from their pain & grief situation.

Whenever our relative or friend faces any kind of trouble in the life we should stand with them like a pillar. Below mentioned are the few  ways we can help them.

1. Listen them completely, let them speak whatever they want to speak.
2. Talk positive
3. Give them some good example to deal with the problem.
4. Help them to find the solution.
5. Get expert-Counselor (psychologist),life coach – advice if the problem is non –trivial
6. Do not judge.